This is a place of serenity and tranquility. A place where I go to think, ponder and pray. Lovely place.

NICE GUYS v JERKS

Well, as you all know.. women are NOT attracted to nice guys. Believe me, I had to learn that the hard way in the past. Why? because nice is BORING. You might be willing to throw EVERYTHING in this girl, might even go to hell for her BUT it's not going to change a thing. "Let's .. just be friends", "awww.. you're sweet" and it ENDS THERE. hahaha. You've gotta respect yourself FIRST b4 you start respecting others.. MEN! Nice guys are BOYS, or at least.. a boy who's trying to be a man. (a friend told me this *wink*)

I've had LOTS of girls throw themselves at me before and guess what, I wasn't putting on a NICE guy act. I was the cool, rebellious type in school and girls ARE attracted to that! I'm not saying that girls will definitely fall in love with the bad guy, but at least 80% of the time, they will be ATTRACTED to him. I focus on ATTRACTION cause it's different from LOVE you see.

Okay.. so why the JERK? Is it because women will feel they've accomplished something? Conquered the unconquerable? Well.. it's actually the EXCITEMENT. A sense of adventure. They keep the girls GUESSING and WANTING for more. For example, imagine a nice guy in a club. Nice guys.. they won't want to offend girls, they'll watch what they say. In the end, they practically don't say anything.. and that means.. BORING. A jerk will just talk shit and more shit, he doesn't care if what he says offends the girl or not. He teases them non-stop. This creates SUSPENSE and EXCITEMENT.

If you hear a women says "oh.. he's nice". I can bet my entire savings account that she's just NOT feeling for him. They don't use the word NICE to describe what they're feeling for him. Alright.. the point is, women just don't feel that ATTRACTION for NICE guys! But unfortunately they do feel it for BAD BOYz.

HOWEVER, I don't believe that you MUST be a jerk, or abuse women in order to make them feel attracted to you. There's a much better way :)

1. If your behavior isn't getting you the results that you'd like to get, CHANGE IT. Do anything DIFFERENT. DO SOMETHING ELSE IMMEDIATELY! you don't want the girl to BORED OUT OF HER MIND, do you?

2. I think that it's great to be NICE to women. Just do it in a way that doesn't make them think of you as a "nice guy." It's actually very simple. You can tease her, but don't HURT her feelings. Be naughty but NICE at the same time. Ok.. for example, thiis is what I do. If i can't stand her ramblings, I'll just say it out loud, ask her to chill and then give her a back massage or when she's driving, play with her abit.. kiss her, hug her. It's a great feeling for both of ya!

3. Send MIXED MESSAGES. If it's done right, it's ATTRACTIVE. Hot women are looking for something DIFFERENT. You see.. most guys think alike. They'll splash the girl with gifts, insincere compliments, bla bla bla. That equals to predictable, same like the rest, out of the list. A CHEEKY, WITTY, FUNNY, UNPREDICTABLE, CHARMING guy will run away with her attention.

4. When you really, really, REALLY like a girl.. things are different. True. However, don't be OBSSESSED with them! Women are not into guys who'll go psycho over them. My best advise for you is just BE YOURSELF. If it doesn't work out, so what? It means she's not into you, she's not interested, there's NO LOVE. so .. why bother? Love works both ways. You can say that "it's a one-sided love" where you love her eventhough you can't be with her. It's romantic but STUPID. I've felt that way before and it's no fairy tale. It'll definitely affect the girl but still, you better be VERY SURE that this is the girl you've been waiting for all your life and that she's definitely worth it or else it's going to be a long, dark and winding road.

5. Don't compare yourself to others. You gotta love yourself if you want others to adore you. Be the FLAME, not the moth.

6. There's a difference between DESPERATION and SINCERITY. I'm sure you girls know what I mean. Be sure why you like her, why you're interested. During the courtship, girls can sense if you're desperate or you're really sincere. There's no fooling your way out of this. So.. just be sure.

Bad boys won't stick around for long. Nice guys are too boring, too nice. What makes you a real MAN is just to be yourself. Be "stuck in the middle". Bad when you want to be but always nice to the girl. Nice guys are always the gem in a relationship. They'll make excellent husbands but sometimes you just can't be too nice. Gotta play hard to get once in a while to create suspense.

LOVE is far different. Incomparable for this discussion. Love has no boundaries, no distance. Whether you're bad or nice, it doesn't matter.

So GOOD LUCK! Time to SPARK ATTRACTION in the girl you're interested in.  

  Nice design ain't it? my friend's new development. Good design, not bad location but now having a bit of trouble selling it because of the high price. See the middle 3 shophouses? they're planning to turn it into a budget hotel. Interesting idea. I take a great interest in it even if it I play no part in it but the KNOWLEDGE is priceless. The contacts, the procedures in obtaining the licencing.. to know all this is priceless in future endeavours.

One of my friends opened a coffeeshop (kopitiam style) over there to attract people to the location as well. The food is good there. Good kolo mee, nice kueh chap (although bit pricey and so little meat!!), laksa is alright but the chicken and BBQ pork is not bad also. So far so good but not many peeps know about it yet.

Went to check out my car today. Bought a brand new Toyota Hilux although I do wish the Camry was available :( have to wait 6 months for it.. Anyway, a new addition to the family. The Black MonSta! hahaha.

My other Black Knight at home.  

Check out my pup when she was just a lil- baby. Damn cute but now freakin notty man. She has a habit of shitting on the walkway outside my room. *sigh*

I give my thanks to God for he saved me once again. I was pretty worried yesterday about a package which changed of plans had to be checked-in. The package's very important to me and I didn't want the receiver to say "Er... Thanks for the box. What's the other junk in there anyway?" hahaha. if it were thrown about and everything inside turned to pieces but thank god the outside of the box was okay. No dents, nothing, in mint-condition so I assumed the inside should be alright. 2 and half hours of pro-packaging sure helped alot and sure did alot of silicone glue which stinks and burns by the way *ugh*  

  In today's business enviroment, KNOWLEDGE is essential. Always be A STEP ahead of your competitors.

 Take my friend's construction site for an example. Eventhough the location is not so strategic (ridiculous land prices now) but compared to the other housing projects there, they have contemporary design, bigger land space and offer lots of attractive packages. As a result they've sold of around 70% of the whole project.

 Journey to Success. Part 2.

1. Calm, Cool, Simple.

Don't panic. With a cool head, you can project more ideas, think of better solutions. Keep it simple, get straight to the point. Bigger does not necessarily mean better. Effects and lots of "bunga" might be impressive but if your services or products downright suck then you can never expand. People have the ability to SELL. Basically, we're all selling ourselves everyday. Going to the university to obtain a degree, why? to sell your services in the future. 

2. Research

Buying something or even presenting something without doing proper research will ultimately bring you to your doom. MARKETING tasks are ESSENTIAL for a company. Gone are the days where you just sit in the office and wait for customers or business to come rolling in. In this tough competition market, gotta get your ass up and look for customers! You might have brilliant ideas but they won't be any use if you don't do your research. Have a sales target or talk to your executives. Ask them what they want. RESPECT them eventhough they give you dog shit, they are still your superiors and whether you like it or not, they are your mentors. There's alot to learn from them. Keep an open mind to criticisms. If you can't handle small talk, how can you handle the pressure of million dollar transanctions. IMPRESS THEM. Always remember, one day they'll be working for you.

3. Speak your mind

Yes. Respect RESPECT RESPECT. You have to respect people in order for them to respect you but it doesn't mean you have to take shit from them always. But just be sure you exactly know what you're talking about when you do speak your mind. Don't do it out of anger but do it because YOU KNOW YOU'RE RIGHT. 

4. Survival law

The top businesses in the world won't give a shit who you are unless you're the goverment. If you sell a product similiar to theirs, they'll sue you if they can. Trying to get an infringement suit or something along intellectual property. They'll destroy you. It depends on your ethics but at times, being sly is a must. I've talked to a couple of local figures and they said "Morality has no place in business if you want to make it to the top." This is what 2day's society is about. However, I still believe that isn't entirely true. We are taught as lawyers to STRETCH THE LAW as far as it can go WITHOUT BREAKING it and that MORALITY COMPLETES the law.

5. CONFIDENCE

CONFIDENCE CONFIDENCE CONFIDENCE! This is essential for everyone no matter what you do. Be it in courtship, business or even social. Confidence changes a whole person. Dress for success. Clothes actually define yourself. You'll feel good. But it doesn't mean that you need branded suits/clothes just to feel confident. Remember, it's all about the STYLE not some superficial brand labeling. They (designer wears) have excellent marketing teams, look at their impact. I recommend choosing a good tailor though. They're not expensive, you can design to your taste, it'll be one of a kind, why not? You need to appear in a way people will take you seriously.

6. POWER STARE

Sounds weird? When I first started working for my father, I was just 18 years old. He wanted me to learn how to interact with customers and business associates alike. I tell you, just finishing high school, going into college, I was not confident in everything that I did. It was like being thrown into a new life. As a result, I felt like a complete idiot. Of course that was in the past. When you fall, clean the wounds and get up. Now whenever I'm negogiating or discussing something, I will always have a POWER STARE. It projects your CONFIDENCE, shows that you'll take no bullshit from anyone and it means that you're down right serious.

MSN is pretty screwed up at the moment. Lagging like shit and can't even send out a single message.

3 years ago, I fell in love with this lady.   3 years later, I'm STILL in love with this lady! haha :P

One of my good buds asked me questions bout life and woman. Hmm.. even people I met recently poured out their problems to me. I'm not complaining or anything. Just a thought.

The Journey to SUCCESS.

PART 1.

1. Make decisions, stick with it and live with the CONSEQUENCES. Don't moan or complain about what that might have been or your regrets. Just accept responsibility for your actions. If life's a bitch, just be FIRM and MOVE ON.

2. Know what's important and what isn't. Don't waste your time. Time is precious, irreplaceable. Have a purpose in what you're doing. E.g: By going to the gym, you can be improving your stamina, losing fat or building muscles. 

3. Focus on FAMILY, POWER & MONEY. Don't focus on getting laid. You'll just get AIDS in the end. Behind every GREAT man, will always be a GREAT WOMAN. Keep your FAMILY STRONG. They are God's gift to you. Don't ever forget that. Their sacrifices are priceless, made out of blood and sweat that no money can buy. I protect my family with all my might and power, NEVER forget where your loyalties lie and who has your back when you need it. 

4. Don't diss others behind their backs. Especially if you don't really know that person. What's the point of it? People are going to look at you funny, either you're just jealous or a hypocrite.

5. When you make a promise, KEEP IT. If you can't keep it, it means you break your word. Your words are as POWERFUL as your actions. Trust and reliability automatically comes to play.

6. RESPECT YOURSELF and OTHERS at the same time. Don't think you're godly over others. There is only 1 God anyway and HE CAN see right through you. :) Set an example. Be a role model to yourself, your friends, even bystanders. You want people to look up to you, don't you?

7. Don't expose your weakness/vulnerability to anyone, unless of course to your loved ones. Don't let your enemies know. I quote this from my dad and mentor; "Every employee in your company is your future/potential competitor. Be very wary of the situation. Don't take anything for granted no matter how successful you are." People grow wiser every single day. When you are successful, you will have enemies or rivals or people envious over your success. This is where you have to be cool and calm. Overcoming each and every challenges by the day.

8. Don't be satisfied with inheritance money. What good will it be if you don't know how to manage it and go on a huge spending spree. Decide your own destiny. Be sure of it, your goals and dreams and WORK for it. Fight till the very end in this doggy dog world. Even if you do inherit "goods"... Take it, Work it and turn it into 10 times what it was.

The Journey to Success is just beginning.

These are 2 BAD ASS LOOKING HILUX-es! Going to UMW Toyota tomorrow. Wanna check how much I can trade in my car for..

Taken when I was having dinner with a friend. "The Calm B4 the Storm" I guess.

 OH SHIT! I still have this picture. hahaha. This is what happens if you THROW/BELIEVE TOO MUCH in something that you're not sure off. I actually made this for somebody whom I thought was worth saving but in the end, i was just blind. Thank god i woke up from that nightmare. A good lesson in the end.

  Ma friend's birthday cake. WHOOOOOO FOOOOOO! hahaha. Hardo Gay des!

 My Calling.